To have and to hold? Or to have and to cuckold?

They say cheaters never prosper. But if your partner’s fantasy is watching you romp with someone else — you may both come out winners.

Sex expert Adreena Winters insists that cuckolding is far “more common than most people think.” The 37-year-old UK-based author of So You Want to Be a Cuckold? told Jam Press that while erotic fantasies abound online, many couples lack the practical know-how to navigate them in real life.

“Cuckolding typically involves a man taking pleasure in watching his partner have sex with a more dominant man,” Winters explained. “I talk about what it is and how to approach your partner about it. It’s very easy to put a partner off if you go about it the wrong way.”

Her book also covers how to vet third parties, manage jealousy, and keep communication healthy. “Good communication is really important,” she stressed. “The topic needs to be broached gently, with both partners feeling safe and supported.”

Winters — who brands herself the “Queen of Cuckolds” — also shares spicy insights on other fetishes she encounters, from penis humiliation and feederism to fart fetishes and female wrestling. “A lot of men love being told they have a small willy,” she said, admitting she enjoys delivering playful degradation.

The sex educator pointed out that kinks range widely, with new obsessions constantly bubbling up. This year, “beach ball porn” spiked nearly 47%, while the “giantess” fantasy remains America’s most-searched fetish.

But no matter the fetish, Winters urges caution and care. “If there is humiliation involved, it’s not necessarily negative,” she said. “It’s about showing support and creating a secure space, even when the desires are unconventional.”

For adventurous couples, she suggests patience, honesty, and open conversation: “The kinks always blow my mind — but what matters most is that everyone feels respected.”